By An Aspirant
Complaint
is an expression of dissatisfaction with a situation and an unwillingness to
accept it, exacerbated by the inability to endure the resulting discomfort or
to put in the effort required to adjust it to meet our preferences! Digging
further into that feeling makes it evident that the situation is not absolutely
unchangeable, but we'd rather not take on that responsibility because we don't
trust the strength/longevity of the driving preferences! Thus, complaints
reflect an evasion of personal responsibility and a tendency to blame external
factors. Simply put, complaining is a demonstration of one's cowardice!
This deep-rooted trait requires introspection, effort and immense Grace to
overcome. Awareness that this malady is "in" us and not a problem
outside transforms us into an active and willing patient in the treatment
process. Some efforts that I find helpful are:
1.
Acceptance:
Initially, "don't complain" amounts to bottling up the emotions,
which leaves little room for the intellect to operate effectively. Instead, we
have to first accept that we are dissatisfied without justifying it.
